Whose business is your fitness?
With the new year, the gym is bouncing full of people, and online I”m seeing a lot more health-related activity as well. I wish all the new healthy living – weight loss bloggers & individuals a lot of willpower to keep up the fight and reinforcement to continue on your journey!
Last week I came back from my own vacation and I was doubly glad I wasn’t starting something new but continuing the trend. I was really excited to get back to the gym.
But I had a very sobering moment.
I hadn’t looked at my SO’s photos of our trip last year to Thailand during the same time period (New Year’s). This is mainly because I’m usually behind the camera myself so I spend plenty of time looking back at my own pictures.
But I finally saw one, and I saw a terrible terrible picture of myself. I was shocked, really.
I remember the trip as being great, and really enjoying Thailand. I knew I was heavier but now looking back at that picture, I didn’t really imagine myself looking like that. Spending so much time behind the camera means I don’t always have a ton of pictures of myself and perhaps as I gained weight I tended to avoid cameras subconsciously. Aside from that picture, I have one in early December 2010 and one in March 2011 which I consider to be the “Befores” – the classic before pictures I wanted to distance myself from as much as possible. Those pictures motivated me to change, to improve, to try. I look at those pictures, and I looked then when I started this journey, and I said no more.
But these pictures were worse. I’m not sure if I had looked at those pictures directly after my trip if I would have been even more motivated…or depressed.
It was really in March, after being worried about myself, and finally some people I cared about also talking to me, that made me realize it had gone too far. Looking at those pictures from 3 months earlier, I kind of wonder why someone didn’t take me aside earlier and say…hey, what’s going on with you? Those pictures affect me even today and I’m a long ways from who that woman looked like.
And that brings me to the title of the post. Whose business is your fitness?
When do we, as friends, family, loved ones, keep our mouths shut about someone’s appearance, and when do we offer our concern and help?
I grew up most of my life being sensitive about my weight and in the United States it’s generally considered a taboo subject and something people don’t talk about. In Italy, that rule is out the window. Even colleagues will say, “have you put on some weight?”
When do we mind our own business, and when do we reach out to those we care for and do something / encourage / challenge them?
I’m curious what others are thinking. I myself now feel more compelled to reach out, because I know that change is not impossible, and the more support you have, the better it gets, but I’m also afraid at really offending someone instead of helping.